I meant to post this earlier…but with Babyhead being in school now and homework to be done…it was hard to sit down and actually write.
In celebration of Mine and DH’s wedding anniversary, I give you our ceremony. Yes, it is not traditional as our wedding wasn’t traditional. We were married in the park, under the trees with our friends and family around us. A hurricane came in a few days before and took all the weather away so all we had was cloudless and sunny skies. May the sun shine down on us for another 7 years and more.
S* and C*
- Procession – We will be waiting in concentric circles. C* and I will be in the center. S* and her bridesmaids will walk into the center. Use Celtic Bodrahn (frame drum) to call attention and begin.
The minute I heard my first love story.
I started looking for you, not knowing
How blind that was.
Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere.
They’re in each other all along.
Welcome family and friends!
We have come together here in celebration of the joining together of S* and C*. There are many things to say about marriage. Much wisdom concerning the joining together of two souls has come our way through all paths of belief, and from many cultures. With each union, more knowledge is gained and more wisdom is gathered. Though we are unable to give all this knowledge to these two, who stand before us, we can hope to leave with them the knowledge of love and its strengths and the anticipation of the wisdom that comes with time. The law of life is love into all beings. Without love, life is nothing, without love, death has no redemption. If we learn no more in life, let it be this: Marriage is a bond to be entered into only after considerable thought and reflection. As with any aspect of life, it has its cycles, its ups and its downs, its trials and its triumphs. With full understanding of this, S* and C* have come here to be joined as one.
- Reading – Sonnet 116 – Shakespeare (below)
Celebrant: S* and C*, you have been in each other all along… Rumi is correct. All it took was hours on the computer learning a game, hours playing it, hours on the telephone, and hours and hours traveling to Georgia and waiting hours and hours to finally meet!
I am sure that all of you are quite aware of how these two met and how they spent their very first date. If you haven’t, please make sure you get the website address where S* has so lovingly recreated their story.
The story is certainly about perseverance. That no matter what obstacle appears before you there certainly is a way around it! It may take longer and it is certainly not the easy road. However, it does build character and strength and wisdom. Love is always an important ingredient in a marriage. Yet, strength and perseverance is almost more important for they forge together with love and commitment to make a beautiful, enduring and everlasting marriage.
S* and C*, we all know that you have been tested and you have passed the test. We all are now wondering how many more tests there are to be in your lives?
S* and I spoke before the wedding about this pattern in their lives. We decided that we might as well plan for the worst-case scenario. If we didn’t, it may just happen and at the last minute we would be frantically searching for backup plans! How many people [here] have to make plans for Hurricanes? We certainly don’t live in Florida do we??
S* and C*, this is it. You have been brought together here today and you will join yourselves together heart, mind, body, and soul. There is nothing now that will take that away from you. Not now, not ever. For, it is truly up to the two of you to make the most of your marriage and you have certainly proven yourselves very worthy!
S* & C*, you support each other, listen to each other and respect each other. You both understand that the other is a gift, a precious gift. Yet, this gift is not yours alone but one that is shared with the entire world. In your love for each other, may you find yourselves becoming stronger, more complete. Your love for each other becomes a gift unto this world and all who come into contact with you.
S* & C*, you are the result of the love of thousands. Today would not be possible without the love of your parents, your grandparents, siblings, extended family and friends. Today we witness the circle of life. All that was extended to both of you; stability, love, support and nourishment, will now be extended beyond yourself and into the future generations.
Your parents have given you immortal gifts. The light of this marriage would not be possible without them. Emerson defined success in this way: It is to leave the world a better place, by virtue of a redeemed social condition, a patch of a garden or by way of a child. We congratulate your parents on their success! They have brought forth life. They have brought forth love. It is most important on your children’s wedding day that we thank them and bless them.
Declaration of Intent
Celebrant: Since it is your intention to join in marriage, kindly join hands and with your hands your hearts.
The tender words you are about to say to one another are stored in the secret heart of heaven. One day like rain they will fall and spread, and your mystery will grow green over the world.
Celebrant: In the ancient Celtic tradition of handwrapping, S* and C* will be tying the knot!
Your hands convey the warmth of your hearts, and your hands placed in an infinity symbol convey your two hearts in a marriage of strength and unity.
Please place your right palms together, then place your left palms over them. This creates a figure eight, or infinity symbol.
(lay cloth across clasped hands and bring the ends up over each other, also creating a figure eight.)
This cloth represents that something within yourselves yet infinitely greater than yourselves has joined you together. As your hands are bound, so are your hearts, minds, bodies, and souls.
Here all seeking is over
the lost has been found
a mate has been found
to share the chills of winter-
now Love asks that you be united.
Here is a place to rest,
a place to sleep
a place in heaven
Now two are becoming one,
the black night is scattered
the eastern sky grows bright
at last the great day has come!
S*: My hand is bound to yours in marriage
C*: And I have bound mine to yours.
S*: My hand is a symbol of my love, do you receive it?
C*: As I receive yours, do you receive mine?
S*: With this hand, I promise to hold you, cherish you and respect you always.
C*: With this hand, I promise to care for you, provide for you and to be your friend.
S*: As I hold your hand in mine, I feel your love.
C*: As I feel your love, I know that our love will last for a lifetime.
(Celebrant removes handwrapping)
Celebrant: Rings are the ancient symbol, blessed and simple. Round like the sun, like the eye, like the arms that embrace, like our gathering here today. Circles, for love that is given comes back round again and again. Therefore, may these symbols remind you that your love, like the sun, illumines; that your love, like the eye, must see clearly, that your love, like arms that embrace, is a grace upon this world.
C*/S*: This ring is round and hath no end and so is my love unto my friend.
- Reading – Apache Song (below)
Blessing and Pronouncement
Celebrant: Please join hands and listen to that which I am about to say. Above you are the stars, below you are the stones, as time passes, remember…Like a stone your love will be firm, like a star your love will be constant. Let the strength of your wills bind you together, let the power of love and desire make you happy, and the strength of your dedication make you inseparable. Posses one another, yet be understanding. Have patience with one another, for storms will come, but they will pass quickly. Be free in giving affection and warmth. Have no fear and let not the ways of the unenlightened give you unease.
S* and C*, you have been brought together by love and commitment. You have exchanged solemn and sacred vows. By this integrity and truth, in the beloved company of family and friends, it is my absolute delight to pronounce you married.
Celebrant: The bride and groom kiss and all of creation sings for them.
Celebrant: Please find your bubbles and get ready to shower S* and C* with your blessings. As you inhale, think of a blessing you would like to bestow upon them. As you exhale, imagine your blessing has become one with the bubbles.
Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O, no! it is an ever-fixed mark,
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth’s unknown, although its height be taken.
Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle’s compass come;
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
It this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.
Now you will feel no rain,
For each of you will be a shelter to the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
For each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no loneliness for you,
Now there is no more loneliness.
Now you are two bodies,
But there is only one life before you.
Go now to your dwelling place,
To enter into your days together.
And may your days be good
And long on the earth.