Picture it…

A man and a woman fall in love.  They marry, buy a house and have children.  For a while all is well.  One parent stays home with the kids while the other works and think that life couldn’t get any better.

One day the working parent gets laid off and cannot find an equal paying job.  Both parents have to take jobs to try to make at least enough money to pay their bills.  Many times there is a decision to either go to work or miss out on a day’s pay or risk getting fired just to make it to a school function such as a PTA meeting or teacher day.  Many times the job wins as there is a need for housing and food-needs that can’t be met by missing work.  Many times the children are left alone or with a babysitter.  Many times the children beg mom/dad to stay at home with them.  Many times the children get angry when it is a decision they don’t like.

After a few years the kids decided that they are all but abandoned.  They don’t have the mental capacity to understand the choices that their parents makes, even if it is in their best interest.  All they know is that their parents aren’t there.  They don’t see that the parents are working to keep food on the table.  They don’t see that the parents are trying to pay the rent/house payment.  They just see that many times they are, sadly, alone.

The children begin to act out.  They become destructive.  Maybe they hurt themselves.  Maybe they hurt others.  They are trying to get the attention of someone so they aren’t so alone.  Somewhere in their subconscious they think that if they just steal this or take that drug their parents will come to their rescue.  Their parents will be there.

In the meantime there are those who are trying to get it easier for parents to stay at home more and be there for their kids.  They are trying to get more initiatives passed into law so they are able to miss work without having to worry about how to pay the bills.

It is an uphill battle as many think that such laws are unnecessary.  Many people feel that families are doing fine on their own or that such laws have no place.  They speak about choices and “welfare children” and how people just need to suck it up and take care of their own and not expect others to help out.

All the while these children are robbing stores, doing drugs and killing people are trying to get attention while the parents, who are trying to do the best they can with what they have, work to feed and house and do the best they can to take care of their responsibilities.

You have to wonder… What would happen with these kids if their parents didn’t have to choose between a job and their children?


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One response to “Picture it…

  1. Interesting question you pose.