Who thought this was a good idea?

Did no one have any conscience with this?  Or were they ignoring the little voice that speaks to all of us that something isn’t right?

I am talking about the California County that not only disregarded legal paperwork naming a power of attorney but had a perfectly healthy senior citizen put in a nursing home for the sole purpose of keeping him away from his 20+ year male partner. THEN proceeded to not only take all their money but terminate the lease of the place they have lived in for 20 years and auction off ALL the belongings.

Clay and Harold made diligent efforts to protect their legal rights, and had their legal paperwork in place–wills, powers of attorney, and medical directives, all naming each other.

I am totally baffled that NO ONE stopped to say, wow…this isn’t right.  Not only are we ignoring legal paperwork, but we are also auctioning all the belongings, not just the guy’s who is sick to help pay for bills.

The only thing I can come up with is someone was just plain mean and bigoted.  More than that actually.  I can let some of them off the hook if they were duly confused on the matter.  Maybe someone hid the paperwork claiming power of attorney.  Maybe someone lied and said that no one else lived in the house.  Maybe someone convinced the Landlord that the two men wouldn’t be returning due to health reasons.

But, someone did know that they were at least living together.  And someone did know that Clay wasn’t in bad health.  And someone did know that half of the possessions in the house were Clay’s.

Yet, they sill managed to get Clay imprisoned in a nursing home.  What else would you call it when he didn’t want to be there and had all his mental faculties to decide such a thing?

Yet, they still managed to not only take the money from the bank account to pay for Harold’s medical bills, but also terminate the lease and sell all belongings in the house.

It doesn’t matter if you agree with their choice of partner.  It doesn’t matter if you believed they were an abomination and dammed to hell or just plain gross.  No law in the United States of America says you can imprison someone like this and then take away their home and sell their belongings.

…the county represented to the judge that Clay was merely Harold’s “roommate.”The court denied their efforts, but did grant the county limited access to one of Harold’s bank accounts to pay for his care.

It is sad enough that Harold and Clay were kept apart until Harrold died.  It is sad enough that after 20+ years they couldn’t even be together at the end.  But now, not only does poor Clay have to deal with the death of his longtime partner, but rebuild his life from the ground up.

Shame on you Sonoma County, California.  NONE of this was legal.  Someone should have known better and spoke up.  And for the people that knew they were in the wrong and did it anyway, you are the ones who are evil.  Not these men.  May your God have mercy on you when it is YOUR time.

Three months after he was hospitalized, Harold died in the nursing home. Because of the county’s actions, Clay missed the final months he should have had with his partner of 20 years. Compounding this tragedy, Clay has literally nothing left of the home he had shared with Harold or the life he was living up until the day that Harold fell, because he has been unable to recover any of his property. The only memento Clay has is a photo album that Harold painstakingly put together for Clay during the last three months of his life.

Meet Harold & Clay


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