When you join a social network, you expect complete strangers to want to be your friend for whatever reason be it spam, lovin’, or phishing. On facebook I receive a lot of requests from complete strangers wanting to befriend me. I used to simply ignore them and deny the request but they would be persistent Most of them from men who all their friends are are women. This tells me that they are really only trolling for girls and even if I wasn’t happily married, I wouldn’t give these people the time of day.
With that said, I have taken it to the next level since I keep getting the same requests over and over…and over…and over. Obviously ignoring these people does not work. I replied to one request saying that I was very sorry, but I don’t friend people that I don’t personally know. The person wrote back asking where I was from. Well, obviously that is a red flag that you really don’t know me and have no business friending me (per my previous reply) if you don’t know where I am from. I sent back a curt reply saying such and not to contact me again or his correspondence will be deleted and/or reported.
Yesterday, I got another request from another guy who only had girls on his profile (I always check in case it is someone I do know, but don’t remember like from high school). I sent this reply:
“I am sorry, I do not friend people I personally know. Please do not contact me again.”
While it is short and curt, I thought it conveyed the right message that “I AM NOT INTERESTED” and to keep people from trying to connect through constant FB messaging.
Of course, it hit a nerve in this guy (who either looks like Vin Diesel or stole Vin’s image from somewhere. Either way, he was offended:
“MEAN…..YOU LOSE MORE THAN ME..”
Well, I guess. I can’t really lose what I never had and don’t really care if I lose something I never wanted. I never said I wasn’t mean. I also never said I was interested in meeting new people on facebook. What this brought to mind however was the banter going on in other places of the web about how men (I can only assume these are men since that is how they identify on FB and I have yet to get a request from a woman I don’t know) think that they have the right to intrude on women’s personal space to “prove” themselves worthy of a woman’s attention even when she says no, asks politely to be left alone, threatens legal/police action or whatever.
See, they can’t really do much to force me into interacting with them other than the first message on Facebook since I can not only delete their messages, but report them to facebook and potentially have them banned. However, in real life there are those that wouldn’t accept no for an answer and try to prove themselves, even though I said I wasn’t interested thereby proving only that they are jerks that I don’t want to associate with to begin with.
Anyway, point is if you go trolling social media for girlfriends it really is a wast of time to try to troll them into talking to you.
And for the record…I’m really not interested. Go away…and don’t bother sending a mean message back since I don’t feed trolls.