I got a call from one of my sisters (V) today. She said she wanted to update me on what is going on with my niece (J). You see, my niece hasn’t had the best life. Her dad left when she was small and was quick to give up his parental rights. Then my sister married a drunk and he attacked my niece one night because he thought she was my sister. That is just a little bit of what she has went through.
Anyway, J is 16 almost 17 now and has fell in love with a PoS boy (PoS) that has her hooked on drugs now. V told me that they put her into rehab when they found out J is now using heroin and shooting up. I told V that, unfortunately, there isn’t a whole lot that can be done if J doesn’t want be helped. This PoS is abusive (physically and mentally) and is probably using the drugs as a way to control her and maybe even prostitute her. *sigh*
Here is the thing though, get ready for this.
J was in a foster home. Actually she was in V’s ex husband’s brothers home (they foster kids). V TOLD THEM that the boy was PoS and that J shouldn’t have any contact with him. Well, they decided that they should meet PoS and when they did they thought he was a good kid (now this PoS is almost 20 YEARS OLD!!!). Anyway, so they decide PoS is a good kid and that J can go out…unsupervised…with PoS. Which is how J came to doing heroin.
I will say that again.
The foster parents let J date the PoS, after being warned, that got her addicted to drugs in and in trouble in the first place only to get J addicted to MORE drugs, namely heroin.
So, now J is in rehab. I want to write her a letter and have V send it to her…but what would I say? I mean, railing at her isn’t going to help. I could try to give her advice, but I am not even sure if that would work.
What I REALLY want to do is go shoot PoS and strangle J.
Makes me wonder why we wanted to have kids.