I wrote this a while back on another website/blog. I feel it is totally worthwhile to reprint as often as I feel the need.
It is important to know that our life’s role is not as constant as we may believe. Just as we start of as newborns and grow and change into adults, our role in life changes as well. Many moms feel lost and confused when we finaly have our children. Sometimes it may even see anti-climatic. We feel that we will never be our old selves again, that we will be forever tied to “mother” and never again who we used to be.
We feel that we will never be our old selves again, that we will be forever tied to “mother” and never again who we used to be.
Here is a thought though. We will NEVER be the same person we once were. As we grow older we learn new things and when we learn those new things we cease to be the person before we knew it. If you have ever kept a diary or journal and you look back at it years later you may wonder who it was that wrote those words. That is because you are no longer that person. You grew and changed over that time you wrote those pages and ceased to be that person.
We will NEVER be the same person we once were.
Instead of resisting the changes in our lives, we should celebrate. Instead of coloring our hair to keep the gray from showing, maybe celebrate the fact that not only are you older…but wiser as well and that gray hair is a outward sign of that wisdom. Instead of dreading that big birthday, throw a huge party to acknowledge that you have managed to make it in this world for so many years.
Instead of resisting the changes in our lives, we should celebrate.
It used to be societies held ceremonies for such times. It is a shame that no one does this much anymore. It used to be that women would have a ceremony when a girl had her menses to officially make her a woman. Men held ceremonies for boy children when they were officially put on the road to manhood. Elders were thought of as wise and looked at with respect. Now many girls are taught that their menses is a terrible thing to be ashamed of and boys are left to drift and try to figure out on their own what it is to become a man. Elders are now treated with little respect, like they are a burden for being older, and told that in order to be useful they need to act and look like their youngers.
Elders were thought of as wise and looked at with respect.
We need to go back to the old way of thinking. Teach our children to respect not only those of their age, but their elders as well. We need to acknowledge ALL roles in life, not just the young, and learn to see the good in what we have accomplished in our years, not see those years as a burden.
We need to acknowledge ALL roles in life, not just the young.
“…Each role we play gives us another perspective through which to understand ourselves and the nature of the universe. When we take a moment to see that each change can be an adventure, a celebration, and a chance to play a new part, we may even be able to recapture the joyful anticipation of our youth as we transition from one role to the next. …”